Date: Feb 27 1999 20:07:51 EST
From: Healing News
Subject: Healing News
the month of Love, starry eyes, nervous twitches and hearts
Many people have written to ask how you keep a relationship
a rape. No one has all the answers and the only thing you can
be sure of
is it's not easy. Here's a few suggestions that may help. If
to send input they can be included in the next newsletter:
partner's hand for no reason at all.
Write a note
on your partner's napkin and stick it in the lunch bag.
Leave a message
on your partner's pillow.
Try a game
Go for a walk.
Grab a blanket,
lay down on the grass, and watch the stars or clouds.
to just be together and enjoy each other.
Totals: Are you a female or male?
Female was selected 55 times
Male was selected 0 times
Don't want to answer was selected 0 times
Totals: Are you a survivor?
Yes was selected 53 times
No. was selected 1 times
Totals: Would you say your worst problem area is:
Interacting with familiars was selected 11 times
Interacting with family members was selected 8 times
Meeting strangers was selected 15 times
Getting to know myself. was selected 20 times
Choose not to answer. was selected 1 times
Totals: Would you say this is (see list below) than before the
Better was selected 1 times
Worse was selected 49 times
About the same was selected 2 times
unsure was selected 2 times
Choose not to answer. was selected 1 times
A cool blue
thickness crowded the space, suffocated
And a deep
red flower remained floating in a bath of
whatever god she wished to worship.
And he appeared
above her, everything she was ever
her brother, her priest, her god.
drifted towards her from this
could never truly believe in.
The pain was
more than she had ever experienced,
her mind, her soul.
She felt the
bruises beginning to throb,
In the shape
of so many hands on her legs, her
And he held
her down in a pool of blood, her own blood,
it love and other disgusting lies.
She felt herself
giving up, becoming limp, her will to
And the room
faded into a distant memory.
When she awoke
from her dream this demon was gone but
her body lay
tainted sheets and memories that would
never be clean
by Katie O'Connor
A very long
when I was
came in my bedroom,
and he closed
He told me
of a new game he wanted to play,
I can still
remember the pain today.
out in total fear,
mom could not hear.
years I've tried,
to hide the
secret deep inside.
months ago, I told a friend,
and now my
life is beginning to mend.
are good and some are bad,
and when I
think of my father I get very mad.
I began each
day with a little blue pill,
to keep my
life going straight up-hill.
For many years
I've felt so ashamed,
but now I
know I'm not to blame.
So many people
have helped me along the way,
to deal with
the new game my father wanted to play.
To the friend
I told five months ago,
for her she'll never know.
She has stood
behind me all the way,
and I thank
God for her each and every day!
have been young, or you might have been old;
but who you
would have become will always go untold.
this experience you've grown up fast;
you go through
each day living in the past.
You can still
find his scent in the air;
you can still
remember the color of his hair.
In the night
you hear sounds he made;
these will never fade.
may be good and some may be bad;
will differ between happy and sad.
up one morning and want to end it all;
but keep in
mind that only time will tear down the
your feelings, don't hold them inside;
feelings get stronger, the longer they
at first to explain how you feel;
but in the
end, I promise, you will begin to heal.
first, is scary as hell;
but it get's
easier the more you tell.
The key, I
think, is not to rush;
can't be honest with someone you don't
What the darkness
holds is nothing you see;
the darkness is only me.
I'm in a place
where my life comes apart;
where I can live, while sitting in the dark.
I can make
my life go as I please;
no one hurts
when I want to be me.
I close my
eyes and go back in time;
but in my
mind things are different I find.
girl can cry, run, and play;
she has not
to worry about having a bad day.
She sits upon
her daddy's knee;
looks in his
eyes, and is as happy as can be.
There is no
reason for her to run and hide;
parents are on her side.
She will never
again feel a bad touch;
her daddy loves her so much.
There is no
reason for her to live in fear;
loving family is always near.
With the opening
of my eyes;
was once again a dream I realise
by Mel at
If you haven't
read it yet, beg or borrow "Chicken Soup for the Survivng
mostly for Cancer survivors the book is inspiring and
Even though it's not a book dealing with trauma don't be
if you get a lift from reading it.
for taking along or for reading when you don't have time or
to read and entire book. It's short stories and anecdotes. This
one is especially
worth the time to check out.
Anonymous is an international
for men, women, and teens. Incest
run for and by survivors and their
or satanist individuals permitted. No
as survivors. No students as
short form of the definition of incest is
verbal and non-verbal, overt and
may be known
to the victim or a stranger.
meetings, information, and literature,
write to I.S.A.
Please state if you are a survivor, or
we may serve
you better. "Don't Quit Before Your
P.O. Box 17245
a self-addressed stamped envelope)
I am a Counsellor
Advocate at the South East Centre
covers half of the population of our
have the option of female or male
work following disclosure of recent
or past sexual
As a result, my clients are 70% male and 30%
We also provide
specialised services for gay and
of sexual assault/abuse; 24 hour
state's hospital system; a unit
Unit); and a 24 hour telephone
links into our individual and group
Centre Against Sexual Assault (SECASA)
Centre (Moorabbin Campus)
61 3 9928 8741
61 3 9928 8749
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