Healing News May 1998 Part 2
May 1998 Part 2 Poems
Did you know?
You say I am strong,
but your weaknesses I share.
You say I am brave,
but I, too, have lived through fear.
You think I have it all together,
but look deeper, past the surface charade.
Do you see the confusion, the boiling anger?
Do you see the child, shattered and afraid?
She is the reason I must feign strength,
She is the source of my focus and energy.
Without her I would die, alone and so afraid,
BUT for HER, I will fight to save me.
Cynthia M. Yarde
April 1998 Survey Responses to “Rape Fears”
During and Immediately after the attack what was your biggest fear?
Being believed if you told someone - answered 31 times
Dying - answered 16 times
Contracting a disease - answered 10 times
Becoming badly injured(other than the assault itself)-
answered 3 times.
Becoming pregnant - answered 1 time
If any of your fears became reality please indicate the answers to
the top 2 concerns here and on question 3.
Being believed if you told someone - answered 28 times
Contracted a disease - answered 6 times
Becoming Pregnant - answered 6 times
Becoming badly injured- answered 6 times
Nearly died - answered 1 time
Continuation of question 2:
Being believed if you told someone - answered 7 times
Contracting a disease - answered 6 times
Becoming pregnant - answered 5 times
Becoming badly injured - 5 times
Nearly died - 1 time
If any of these happened were you able to get the support you needed?
No - answered 29 times
Yes - answered 23 times
Given your experiences, would you be likely to suggest a survivor report
the crime to the police?
Yes- answered 26 times
Depends on other factors- 25 times
No - answered 10 times
A total of 61 people responded to the survey. Not all people necessarily
answered all questions so not all totals may add up to 61. Thank you to
each of you who responded to this survey.
Look for the answers to May’s Survey Next month! If you still haven’t
filled completed this month's go to Survey
It's not necessary to fill out your name and email if you wish
to remain anonymous. It's absolutely ok to do so.
Here are some sites you may want to visit:
Indigo's Inner Eye
She has some links on domestic violence, a little about her, and her
page is sure to bring a smile to anyone. Definitely take a look if you’re
a little nostalgic about Coca-Cola (Sorry Pepsi lovers.)
Cloudy's is another site by a survivor. However; don't expect to find
any clouds. Just warm welcoming sunshine, good links, and helpful information.
See her at You'll
be glad you did
Nashville TN Police Dept. Crime Risk Surveys Go
ahead and take a survey to try to calculate your risks of being raped,
robbed, stabbed, shot, or beaten.
Be careful though. The results may well suprise you. It's an eye opening
sight that everyone can benefit from. It only takes a few minutes to fill
out the test but is well worth the time it takes.
Many thanks to the Nashville Tennessee Police Department for putting together
such a terrific tool!
"Nothing lasts forever - not even your troubles"
Arnold H Glasgow
"Keep a diary, and someday it'll keep you."
"A man is the sum of his actions, of what he has done, of what he can
do, nothing else."
"From what we get, we can make a living; what we give, however, makes
Did you know that there are changes in brain imaging studies in people
who have been diagnosed with ptsd?
The Medical School at Yale University has some information available
MRI and PET Scans
And the site Hidden Scars- Sexual and Other Abuse May Alter A Brain
Region by Madhusree Mukerjee at
has more information. This is a reprint of an October 1995 Scientific
This newsletter is dependent upon your submissions to keep
going. If anyone wishes to submit an article, poetry, quote or share a
humorous joke or story please send it to HealingNewsfirstname.lastname@example.org
to be included in the next newsletter.
None of this is supposed to be a substituted for professional help.
There are many lists of sources on the web and in your local areas. It
is merely offered as hope from survivors to survivors. We are fortunate
this month to have enough information to make 2 newsletters.
Thanks everyone for making this possible.
Don't forget to keep those submissions coming!
In the fight to heal,
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