1. Realize that full healing can only come from God. 
 
      2. Recognize there can be a long term impact on our lives from being raped or abused if we do not work on resolving the pain.

      3. Make a conscious decision to seek God’s will for our lives. 

      4. Come to full realization that what happened to us was not our fault. We did not choose to become a victim. 

      5.  Identify and develop a support network. 

      6.  Ask God to not only help us find our path to healing, but to give us strength to allow ourselves time for the journey.

      7. Be open to avenues of healing that we may not have previously considered. 

      8. Identify things to be thankful for in the midst of our struggling. 

      9. Realize that before we can forgive anyone else for what happened, we must first forgive ourselves. 

     10.  Learn that healing doesn’t mean forgetting what happened but learning to integrate the abuse into our daily lives. 

      11.  Give ourselves time to grieve for what we may have lost.  

      12.  Recognize there is healing in reaching others. Carry the message of healing to other survivors who are struggling.